Today we’d like to introduce you to Apple Daniels.
Apple, let’s start with your story. We’d love to hear how you got started and how the journey has been so far.
The concept of Sexy After Kids actually pre-dates me having children of my own. One day I had a conversation with a co-worker who was approaching her 30-something birthday, I believe it was 36. Instead of being happy and excited she found herself extremely depressed. I was listening to her explain that as she looked at her life – great job, great husband, great kids, she realized somewhere along the way she’d lost herself.
Her stylish clothes were traded in for big floral print shirts, khakis, and loafers. Her hair was always pulled back in a ponytail. She never went out with her friends unless it was a playdate with the kids. The concept of girls night was foreign to her – she didn’t know who she was anymore.
As I listened to her I swore I’d never be that way.
But then it happened.
After having my first two children (twins) I found myself slowly slipping away. Little by little, things began to disappear… the high heels, the makeup, the clothes. Before I knew it I began packing on weight which compelled me to cover up – I had become my friend.
Around this time my sister was turning 21 and she wanted to go out and party, or at least to dinner, but the way my life was set up I just couldn’t do it. Not because of my boys, my head just wasn’t there. One day we were talking and she just asked me point blank,
“What happened to you?”
Somewhat surprised I replied, “What do you mean?”
She goes on to explain how when she was younger she couldn’t wait to get to the point where we could do things together like go out to dinner, take trips, girls nights and weekend getaways. Even basic things like getting our nails done and shopping had disappeared. Then in a way that only a sister can roast you, she said: “And don’t get me started on these clothes.”
Some time later I was thinking of my conversation with my sister and recalling the experience of my friend. I knew I had to make a change or eventually I would drown.
In the beginning I started with small things like getting into Zumba and watching what I ate. I made myself more available to go out with friends and taking advantage of self-care days. Eventually my mindset shifted and I started to feel more confident and vibrant. It was here that Sexy After Kids was born.
As I talked to other women and hashtagging my name everywhere (#SexyAfterKids) I realized that this was a thing. There are countless numbers of women who lose themselves in all of the responsibilities of motherhood. So many of us who love being a mom but also miss the individuality of being able to just be a woman.
Sexy After Kids isn’t about negating the fact that as a mother your life undoubtedly changes and sacrifices will be made. What we hope to do is empower women to live a life of “mom life balance” and we firmly believe that in order to be the best version of yourself for your children, you have to first be the best version of yourself for you.
Has it been a smooth road?
It definitely hasn’t been a smooth road. When you champion any cause you have to first be an example. That means consistently living the life you preach. There were times when my own battles with my weight, living the life I wanted to live vs my reality, or going through the process of divorce then adjusting to being a single mother slowed my progress.
What I realized and my advice to younger women or even older women who are still searching is that beauty is in the journey. It’s in being flexible and creating balance – in respecting where you are presently and appreciating how far you’ve come.
So, as you know, we’re impressed with Sexy After Kids – tell our readers more, for example, what you’re most proud of and what sets you apart from others.
I’m an advocate for self-improvement. Most of the work I do revolves around what I hope is an inspiration to others. I often host weight loss challenges, as well as beauty and biz expos that support other mompreneurs.
What I’m most proud of is the women who I see online some known and unknown who reach out with stories of their own journey. What started out as something that was just for me became its own little community and I love that.
Were there people and/or experiences you had in your childhood that you feel laid the foundation for your success?
I come from a family of entrepreneurs. I’ve always said that witnessing an extreme amount of hustle and drive has always played a role in my own desire to do and be more.
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