Today we’d like to introduce you to Lindsey Griffin.
Thanks for sharing your story with us Lindsey. So, let’s start at the beginning and we can move on from there.
When I turned 18, I was still living in Lawrence, Kansas. I worked full-time as a cocktail waitress at a booming local brewery, and I went to school full-time as well. I developed a dream to move to San Diego, so I kept working as much as I could to save enough money to eventually move across the country. I was born in Lawrence, Kansas and it’s all that I knew; therefore, it took a lot of courage and willpower to overcome the anxiety and self-doubts that riddled my mind. There were many obstacles that I encountered, and I learned to push past these doubts with the power of my mind. I would lay in my bed and close my eyes, picturing everything working out to my liking with my feet in the sand and the ocean breeze filling my lungs.
When I turned 21, I had already graduated from my local community college with an Associate’s in General Sciences and had absolutely no desire to attend the college in my hometown, the University of Kansas. Everything seemed to be falling in place for me and it actually all made sense; I wanted to apply to UCSD after attending SDCCD for another Associate’s in Biology. There was one thing I was sure of, and that was that I wasn’t sure of anything. My life felt like I was free falling into change, and the destination was unclear. I knew I needed to leave; I could hear San Diego calling my name and I felt like it was where I needed to be. My close friend that I used to work with moved to San Diego as well, and I would see her thriving and her face glowing with positivity from the pure excitement of living in a new environment with opportunities and things to experience all around.
My heart would pound when I thought about leaving all that I knew, but I also knew it was time. I pushed through some unfortunate circumstances that came my way and I packed my car with my stuff and my dog, thankfully, convincing my dad to fill this truck full of stuff as well and follow me across the country. The first few months were the hardest; I started working at a busy craft cocktail bar called Polite Provisions with so much I didn’t know yet was eager to learn about. I started school again and it was hard for me to focus because my mind kept wandering. Slowly but surely, the depression and loneliness left me as I found my way into the San Diegan community. Yoga has helped me regain my confidence and self-love significantly; I joined a yoga studio called Honey Yoga located in Talmadge almost a year ago when it first opened. I tried acro yoga in Ocean Beach which was one of the most fun things I’ve experienced; I started lifting weights and becoming stronger physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I also became full-vegan when I moved to San Diego, and I’ve never felt better or loved food more! I plan to start a blog giving tips and tricks for people wanting to become vegan. I’ve met amazing people and have been offered opportunities that I am very thankful for.
I apply to UCSD this Fall for the Fall 2019 semester with hopes of being accepted into the Biological Sciences program. I have creative projects underway with YouTube, photography, and modeling. Not one day goes by that I regret my decision to move and live alone with my dog without knowing where the world would take me. The number one thing that I have learned about myself during this past year is how much I am truly capable of and how strong I can be. I have done things I never thought I would do and reached every single goal that I have strived for with tunnel vision for success; every day can be beautiful if you let it.
Has it been a smooth road?
I feel like the path to happiness is never ending, at least for me anyway. Some days are more up, and some days are more down and I have noticed that’s how it is for most people as well. We live in a world today that is surrounded by social media and the stigmas that come with it. We look and scroll through our accounts trying to imagine how we seem to other people while looking at airbrushed models and wondering why we don’t look like that. It can be a lonely world for women who are raw and real. It can be rough when you feel every emotion that you have so strongly that you can feel them physically running through your veins. Coming from a smaller city in Kansas, people can be very close-minded and for the most part fake. It was hard for me to truly feel a connection with a lot of people because I felt like the conversations that others wanted to have mainly consisted of speaking negatively about our peers; always talking about other people. But, I wanted to talk about the world, the stars, and self-improvement. I wanted to talk about self-love and empowerment.
When you are a sensitive soul, it can be easy for you to soak in other people’s negative energy; sometimes it can be hard to notice that the people that you surround yourself with are what is bringing you down. Before I moved to San Diego, I was faced with car problems, negative influences around me, trying to organize a living situation, hoping that my credits would transfer to my new school and have to hire a lawyer to deal with an old roommate situation amongst other battles. I wasn’t sure if it was going to work out. The most important thing I would continue to tell myself is to not give up and take on one challenge at a time; if you worry too much about every little thing you have to do it can be very overwhelming and counterproductive. I also wish that I could’ve been there to remind my younger self that you cannot fix people, people are who they are, and all you can do is help any viable way that you can, but then remove yourself from the situation; this is key.
Some people can be energy suckers! I would feel so drained after being around the wrong people. My advice to other women would be to never be afraid to be who you truly are, and be weird! I am a huge weirdo and I love every second of it. Do the things that you’ve always wanted to do but were too afraid, and do not be afraid to have emotions! You’ll feel better after, trust me. It’s easy to discount your inner thoughts and feelings along your path in life, but finding good, positive people to surround yourself with can help along the way! If you are feeling down, acknowledge that and know that it’s completely normal to not feel happy 100% of the time; it’s completely normal to question yourself and everything around you. We are in a huge period of change right now, and I would love it if more people shed their shell and danced their way through life like nobody is watching.
So, as you know, we’re impressed with your business – tell our readers more, for example, what you’re most proud of as a company and what sets you apart from others.
I am currently a cocktail waitress at Polite Provisions, as well as their newest bartender! I am so thankful to be working in such an informative and entertaining environment. I have been in the service industry since I was 16 years old. I am currently 22, and I feel like I have a lot ahead of me in the craft cocktail world. Before moving to San Diego, it was my dream to be able to bartend at a craft cocktail bar because I have always been fascinated by the different taste profile combinations that can result from careful planning. So much work goes into creating cocktails that many people wouldn’t notice unless you do the work yourself.
Before I worked at Polite Provisions, I was the lead cocktail waitress at 23rd Street Brewery in Lawrence, Kansas. I could have 20+ full-service tables at a time, along with a lot of regulars that wanted to come and sit in my section. Having so many people tell me what a great job I was doing and come back week after week to see me was a huge confidence booster and validation for me that my hard work was paying off. Even though the service industry can sometimes require long hours and tedious work, it provides me with so much social interaction that can lead to amazing opportunities and fun conversations. My current workplace, Polite Provisions at 30th and Adams, was nominated #1 High Volume Craft Cocktail Bar a few years ago and I couldn’t be more proud to work there alongside my coworkers.
Since I am new at Bartending, I still have so much to learn but that’s what is the best part about it: there’s always more to learn and more to create! Polite Provisions has hit its five-year mark being in business, and we came out with a whole new menu crafted and designed for our amazing visitors! I highly recommend coming in and trying out our specially crafted cocktails; one of them has fresh avocado in it which is perfect for summertime in California. The knowledge that my coworkers have is inspiring and I can’t wait to eventually create my own cocktail to be on our future menu. As for my future plans aside from the service industry, I will be launching video blogs on YouTube soon under @LifestyleByLinz to give vegan tips and tricks, including information on health, lifestyle, and fitness! I also am trying to promote my photography Instagram page titled @photosbylinzzz, where I capture candid moments on the go!
Often it feels as if the media, by and large, is only focused on the obstacles faced by women, but we feel it’s important to also look for the opportunities. In your view, are there opportunities that you see that women are particularly well positioned for?
In my opinion, women can do anything that they want! Even though we do face daily challenges, the best thing that we can do is stay strong and persevere, while not letting anything hold us back. I wouldn’t say that there are any particular opportunities that women are well positioned for, I would say that every opportunity is well positioned for a woman. We are more fortunate than our ancestors to live in a world where there are laws in place to allow us to be anything we want to be. Even though we are backed by the law, it doesn’t mean that women aren’t faced with discrimination in the workplace in some situations; because we are, every day and this can sometimes make it harder to achieve our goals. This is a time where we need to keep our heads up and our hearts strong, proving that we don’t need validation from anybody to do anything or be anybody that we desire.
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