Today we’d like to introduce you to Margaret Rigney.
So, before we jump into specific questions about the business, why don’t you give us some details about you and your story.
I was in law school at California Western (in San Diego) and in my last year, I got engaged in December of 2015. While finishing my last year and taking the bar, I was planning my own wedding because my fiance was also taking the bar before me. At the same time, one of my bridesmaids was planning her wedding, so I helped her along the way and we got to share our experiences.
After my own wedding in October of 2016, I got so many compliments for months and months after. To this day, I still get compliments about it and I realized that I truly love wedding planning. So, I took the plunge in the last few months to become a wedding planner. I’m still doing law and I absolutely love it, but I can’t wait to have my first wedding client!
Overall, has it been relatively smooth? If not, what were some of the struggles along the way?
I’ve always struggled with self esteem and confidence. Law school was a process — you really have to believe in yourself and make the opportunities for yourself. No one is going to hand you a job or give you credit for your accomplishments. Proving to someone that you’re worth it and showing you’re confident is something I learned immediately. Sometimes, you truly just have to fake it ’til you make it. You may not jive with those around you — many in my class were unafraid, confident, incredibly smart and I was very introverted and unsure of myself. The same is true out in the real world, sometimes.
Now, that I’m done with law school, I still have to tell myself to be confident, prove myself and make opportunities for myself. Yes, even with wedding planning. I believe that if you have the will and the belief that you can do something, you will surprise yourself. You’ll meet people along the way who are kind and are willing to help you achieve your dreams.
The other side of the struggle is that wedding planning may not be as stable as a 9-5 job. I’m not sure if my family supports it fully but I’ve thrown it out there, that that’s what I’m doing and I’m taking a risk because no one ever achieved anything great by playing it safe. I don’t ever want to think, “what if” and watch my life pass my by as others take the leap!
Starting my wedding business has had its bumps with people who judge me, who won’t work with me because they think I’m not genuine, have a motive and I’m sure a lot of other reasons. But there will be people like that in the real world. Don’t become hurt and bitter. Kill them with kindness because that is who you are at your core. You know who you are; show them your talent, your kindness, your bravery, your heart. At the same time, support and build each other up as women in every sense of those words. Before you judge someone, get to know them personally. Wish them well in all their endeavors and mean it. When people meet you, they will want to help you. Continue to believe in yourself and continue to make opportunities for yourself. You’re never too young or too old to pursue a dream you have!
Please tell us about Darling Detail Weddings.
Currently, I am an associate law clerk to an amazing General Counsel for a construction company. A lot of who I am today is because of the attorney I work with. She embodies what it’s really like to be a woman: I see work-life balance and I see her truly build up other women. She has the kindest heart I’ve seen and I feel safe. With this particular work, I deal with a lot of sensitive information, so I have to be diligent and thorough in my work as it affects lives and jobs.
I am also currently working as an assistant to a wedding planner: Lavish Weddings. She also is a lot of who I am today. She supports women entrepreneurs and is allowing me to work with her as I build my company — even when I get clients. She’s helped me learn by throwing me into events, seeing how I deal with real-life crisis moments, given me constructive criticism, praise and advice as I grow as an entrepreneur.
For my own business, I am trying to build a portfolio, so I have done one styled shoot (hopefully to be published soon) and two more in the works this month and likely next month, too!
What sets me apart is that I love to do two very different careers but I remain authentic to myself and others. I love throwing myself into difficult projects in law but I also love the creative and exciting aspects of wedding planning. The most important thing is that I know who I am, I know who I want to be and I will never lose sight of the things that matter the most. Kindness, generosity, honesty and empathy for all those I meet. You never know where someone is at in life and I have been very fortunate with my life. With so much chaos in the world, I want to always create a positive space, give back and build women (and men) up by helping in any way I can.
Darling Detail Weddings is inspired by my very own wedding. It started with planning my bridal shower, which was Breakfast at Tiffany’s themed. If you know that movie, you’ll know that there were so many little things that made Audrey Hepburn’s character in the movie so darling. From wearing just gloves, pearl earrings, and a hat with a simple ribbon. It was the littlest details that made the movie. The same is true for my very own wedding and other weddings I have been to! That’s how I came up with Darling Detail Weddings. I’m inspired to truly listen to each bride’s (or groom’s) unique vision and truly bring it to life regardless of their budget. I’m willing to work hard to make the dream wedding go beyond their expectations — I love a good challenge, and I want every bride and groom to have the same magical feeling I had (and still have) from the wedding day. I want them to rest assured I will hold their hand if they need it, listen to their concerns whether or not it has to do with their wedding, and help them come up with solutions to create the most memorable and darling wedding.
Are there any apps, books, podcasts or other resources that you’ve benefited from using?
I love historical fiction! My favorite author for longest time has been Philippa Gregory, author of The Other Boleyn Girl and The Queen’s Fool. My favorite blog is Gal Meets Glam by Julia Engel, a fashion blogger. And I’ve just gotten into podcasts. The first and only one I’ve gotten into is called, Off the Vine by Kaitlyn Bristowe from The Bachelorette, but I’m trying to delve into marketing podcasts for my wedding planning business. I’d love to learn ideas on how to appeal to people and how to get myself out there!
- Website: www.darlingdetailweddings.com
- Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
- Instagram: www.instagram.com/darlingdetailweddings
- Other: www.instagram.com/margaretrigney