Today we’d like to introduce you to Hannah Sol Marie.
Hi Hannah Sol, we’re thrilled to have a chance to learn your story today. So, before we get into specifics, maybe you can briefly walk us through how you got to where you are today?
I am a desire and relationship coach, a wife, sister, friend, and leader in my community.
I grew up in a big, religious family full of love, where our faith was not just for Sundays but also taught in our day-to-day lives. I was homeschooled and heavily involved in the church. I spent years people-pleasing and based my worth on how I was perceived and accepted by my family, friends, and my church.
When I got engaged at 19, the inevitable end of this relationship was the catalyst for a drastic change in my life. I broke off my engagement, and this is when I decided I could leave, that I didn’t have to be a Christian. I feel like the breakup made me realize I could forge a path for myself that I felt good about, that I had the freedom to make big choices on my own, choices that could drastically alter my life. I was no longer tied to obligation but instead could seek what I desired.
I went on a messy, deep self-growth journey to understand and create who I am, what I value, and what I want my life to look like. This led to me moving to San Diego, leaving the church, and creating a community of like-minded friends. I have since met my husband, Bodhi J.M.S Ryder, have been married for three years, and hold deep, meaningful relationships with the people in my life. The journey I’ve been on has been painful, exhilarating and liberating; the freedom that I’ve found and confidence I’ve gained has radically changed my life.
I started coaching almost two years ago, and have supported amazing, powerful women to understand themselves and their dreams, so they can better connect with others; my passion is to see them light up with a child-like joy of curiosity. This work continually pushes me to my edge, and the women I work with have taught me so much; I wouldn’t choose to do anything else.
When I was in the church, I thrived on the community, held places in leadership and taught small-group studies. Those experiences have heavily shaped me, and it is so fulfilling to be able to hold spaces for women now, with the goal to support the whole Woman, regardless of her beliefs, struggles, or goals. Most of the women I coach express the desire to have connected, fulfilling relationships with other women, and my goal is to continue to create opportunities for women to authentically connect with each other.
A few months ago, I started a Meetup group for women to push outside their comfort zones and meet and connect with others. It’s called Brave B*tches, and my goal with this group is to hold the space for women to meet other like-minded women, overcome the social awkwardness, and embrace connections with others, for the long haul (And have so much fun!).
I am doing a yoga teacher training in the spring and plan on using yoga to continue to bring people together and push myself further as a human.
I’m sure you wouldn’t say it’s been obstacle free, but so far would you say the journey have been a fairly smooth road?
My greatest obstacle is often myself, and one of the toughest journeys I went on was redefining what I believe, a complete deconstruction and re-creation of my beliefs.
Christianity was all I knew for my whole life, meaning when I left the church I had to discover my values, who I wanted in my community, and who I am. I did this through tough conversations with women in my life, passionate discussions with my now husband, traveling to a Nepali Monastery and solo traveling in Bali, Indonesia. These experiences led me to confront the resentment, hurt, and anger I was still holding on to from growing up the way I did.
You see, the fear of disappointing others gripped me for so many years, leading me to avoid confrontation and withdraw from feeling deeply and speaking those feelings. Disappointing others and hiding my own feelings was weighing on me so heavily that I felt exceedingly resentful of others.
Relationships are extremely important to me, and my relationship with my parents has been rocky. This is mainly due to our differences in beliefs and not knowing how to connect with each other without the foundation of a similar faith. When I was tired of the resentment and anger I felt towards them, I did two things: First, I had to learn how to separate myself from their actions before I was able to forgive and be open to a close relationship again. Secondly, I evaluated what I needed and wanted out of my relationship with my parents, which was honesty, communication, forgiveness and acceptance, and I decided to give it to them. This completely shifted not only our relationship (I hold so much respect for their beliefs and hold them close), but this had a ripple effect on how I approached relationships from there on out.
The recognition that I had the power to change my life simply by shifting my perspective and making tough choices was eye-opening. I no longer could, or even wanted to, blame others for my emotions and life choices. And it was truly liberating.
Alright, so let’s switch gears a bit and talk business. What should we know?
I am a desire and relationship coach for women. I work with women of all ages, and our sessions are focused on opening up a door of curiosity into who they are, knowing their desires, and showing up as fully themselves in their relationships.
I am most passionate about serving and supporting the whole Woman and strive to create a space for my clients to feel empowered to make authentic choices for their life. It is my goal to see more women connect powerfully with the people in their life, embrace the messy, complicated joy of living, and feel proud of the choices they make.
My coaching is done over the phone, and I currently offer a free two hour coaching “deep dive” session to any woman looking to have a powerful conversation diving deep into what their current relationships look like, what their desires are surrounding them, and how they can create them. This is a great opportunity to get a taste of what coaching is like, and it is a no-obligation session. These are some of my favorite calls!
This link is where you can book the free call:
What were you like growing up?
I grew up in a big religious family in Northern California. I am the fourth child of five, with my three older siblings being much older than me and my youngest brother. I was homeschooled for most of my life and met my dearest best friend in 4th grade, of whom I am still extremely close to. I feel so thankful for my upbringing and know I would not be who I am today if it were not for the way I was raised and the community I grew up in. However, my childhood and adolescence did not come without its trials, specifically carrying the heavyweight of shame. I spent years feeling like too much, and yet not enough, for those around me.
However, the years I spent leading in the church and time I spent investing into my community and my own growth has led to who I am now – a self-proclaimed “self-growth nerd”. I love the chase of a better me, moving through the tough spots so I can end up stronger, wiser and more confident in myself. I am who I am because of the way I grew up, and to be honest, I wouldn’t change a thing.
- Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
- Website: hannahsolmarie.com
- Instagram: @hannahsolmarie
- Other: https://www.meetup.com/bravebitches/
Photos taken by my dear friend, Mikayla Alahuzos