Today we’d like to introduce you to Lola Pickett.
Lola, let’s start with your story. We’d love to hear how you got started and how the journey has been so far.
In 2012, my life completely fell apart. I left my decade-long first marriage, my first child received an autism diagnosis, and I met the love of my life. (Not necessarily in that order.)
Up until that time, I’d been living an ideal life, “on paper”… A white picket fenced yard by the beach, a golden retriever, a well-paying corporate job in graphic design, a college sweetheart-turned husband and a brand-new curly-haired baby boy.
From the outside looking in, I was living the American Dream.
The trouble was, it wasn’t my dream life; it was someone else’s. When I looked into my young son’s eyes, I wanted to be able to tell him—truthfully—that he could make his dreams come true when he grew up. But, I couldn’t say that if I wasn’t doing it for myself… If I wasn’t willing to prove that it was possible.
My heart broke when I realized that I wasn’t living an authentic-to-me life. So, I began the excruciating process of figuring out what my dreams even were… and then—one by one—I started going after them. It meant that nearly everything familiar had to change; my career, my marriage, even my name.
Fast forward to today:
I now have a thriving business which trains empaths and highly sensitive people from all over the world to stop hiding behind their sensitivity, quit mistaking fear for intuition, and finally create the relationship, bank account, and career of their dreams.
My career, my second marriage, and my kids (I have a daughter now, too) are all thriving.
Having done this work for myself–and countless clients—I know it is possible to stop living in fear of what people will think, stop giving yourself away, and start living that “one wild and precious life” that you dream of.
We’re always bombarded by how great it is to pursue your passion, etc – but we’ve spoken with enough people to know that it’s not always easy. Overall, would you say things have been easy for you?
This journey has been anything but easy! The first challenge I had to overcome was allowing myself to leave my first marriage… It was a relationship that was perfectly fine, but it wasn’t meeting the deeper needs of my heart and soul. It’s one thing to walk away from an awful relationship. It’s quite another to walk away from a decade-plus connection that was simply no longer “right”!
I felt selfish… Like I was asking for too much; as if it was greedy to want something more deeply aligned. Many people have judged me over the years for making this choice; even though my son and my first husband are now thriving in ways that they couldn’t have if I’d have stayed put.
Later, as I continued to shed the “not me” parts of my life, I even went so far as to change my first name (to the name I have now)… This was a tough pill to swallow for my family, as I became, quite literally, a different person. But, my soulmate second husband changed his first name, too. (He didn’t resonate with his birth name either.) So we faced the criticism—and truly stepped into a new life—together.
Our life now is by no means “perfect”… We navigate the uncertainty and demands of full-time entrepreneurship and partially homeschool our kids. Being parents, business partners, homeowners, and loving spouses is amazing and emotionally demanding. But, we have the very tools we teach to lean on, and we continue to strengthen our resilience and courage over time. Plus, I can look both of my kids in the eye and model what it looks like to pursue one’s dreams.
We’d love to hear more about your business.
My company provides wellness retreats, private coaching, and online courses – specifically designed for empaths and highly sensitive people who are tired of being overwhelmed emotionally and underwhelmed financially.
After years of private client work, I coined the term “Empath Stress Disorder” (ESD) that describes a specific set of side effects that empaths and highly sensitive people commonly struggle with; including anxiety, perfectionism, ineffective (or non-existent) boundaries, physical illness, addiction patterns, toxic relationships, and even a fear of success.
Our courses, adventures, and programs alleviate the symptoms of ESD by addressing the SOURCE of these problems: a raw, reactive, and overstimulated nervous system. Regardless of how our clients choose to work with us, we help them transform their trouble-spots—like setting boundaries, asking for help, and making money—into areas of confidence and ease.
We’ve also produced an incredible at-home tool for clarity, insight, and transformation: the Wild Messengers Alchemical Tarot and Guidebook. Folks can find it locally at SoulScape or Earth’s Elements in Encinitas and Carlsbad.
What were you like growing up?
Growing up, I was shy, introverted, and was even diagnosed as a “failure to thrive” baby. I was highly sensitive, an empath (but didn’t know it), and I took EVERYTHING personally.
But, I was also a resilient spirit… Even though my feelings frequently got hurt, I rebelled against peer pressure about how to dress or who to be friends with. I was a misfitted outsider, preferring to study French and read plays at recess. I got straight A’s through high school and dreamed of being a broadway star or even a translator at the UN.
But, as I got older, my rebelliousness gave way to the “shoulds” of our culture. I ended up in a series of dissatisfying relationships—thinking that I couldn’t really expect anything better, and chose to get a practical degree in college that would guarantee me a solid corporate job after graduation.
Through my twenties, I slowly forgot about my true self. She became buried under slacks and sales calls; though She was certainly trying to get through to me as I cried while commuting home in evening traffic.
I look back on this time period and feel so grateful to have ended these patterns of self-sacrifice and soullessness.
- Website: http://lolapickett.com
- Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
- Instagram: instagram.com/thelolapickett
- Facebook: facebook.com/thelolapickett
- Other: podcast: http://empathtopower.com tarot deck: http://wildmessengers.com
Alison Love Photography, Jennifer MacNiven Photography