Today we’d like to introduce you to Carissa Knapp.
Carissa, let’s start with your story. We’d love to hear how you got started and how the journey has been so far.
I have always had a lot of side passions, but nothing brings my thoughts to life more than writing! I finally decided that I had to write, I had to put my thoughts out there and started a blog in 2015.
I had a co-blogger and we named it Plow & Shear. It was essentially more of a journal type blog about my thoughts on life and how we can co-exist more peacefully and equally. Since then, I have gone through a lot of changes internally. Most decisions I made in life had been made out of shame and fear. I did not trust myself or really even like myself and thought if people knew me – they would feel the same.
These last couple of years have been about facing myself fully. Seeing myself for who I am, embracing myself and learning to love myself. It also meant leaving a life of longing. The “I am not enough” mentality also told me that I could not do certain things because I was incapable and I had to wait for a partner in life to kind of pull me along in my dreams.
The process included getting to the nitty gritty, choosing a new mindset and facing some really deep pains I had held onto for a long time. With help, I was able to do that and it birthed a new love for people that was true. I am far from perfect, but I really believe each of us was created to show up and contribute out of fullness and not lack. That we get this huge honor of playing different roles in society and giving back out of our innate selves.
The biggest change has been my relationships with people and specifically women. It is such an honor to sit across from a woman and hear her story. To sit with them in pain and in joy. It is not something I could fully do before, because I wasn’t willing to do that with myself and come to an opinion of love.
This way of life is ever evolving, as I am – but it is exciting and a place I never thought I could be at. With all the changes, I knew I had to write about it. To encourage women to step into WHO they are and not cave to society’s very low standards. I have a hope of ushering vulnerability and want to share it – to also learn from people’s stories and get to learn with them. I knew I needed to re-brand, so I did! The launch of the new blog is June 30th and I cannot wait! It gives practical steps to walk out of a life of longing and shame and into living out each of our fullness!
There will also be some tips on how to be glamorous yet live holistically. Living a non-toxic life has been a part of my journey to living in fullness and I want to debunk some myths that you cannot be extravagantly natural.
Great, so let’s dig a little deeper into the story – has it been an easy path overall and if not, what were the challenges you’ve had to overcome?
I like to think nothing is smooth, because I love a challenge! I think they have made me ask hard questions and really decide whether or not I want something in life. It also has lead me to ask for help.
The hardest part when I first started blogging, was that I had a lack of direction. I had no takeaway’s for the audience other than a nice story.
Thankfully, I reached out to In Search of Sheila and she walked me through a strategy session that gave me clarity.
With that, I will say to go for it. Start and ask for help! I think the glory of blogging and starting a small business in San Diego now is that there is a community for it. So many people are willing to come alongside one another now more than ever before here and it is thrilling!
I have loved getting to know each persons gifting’s and contributions and ask questions! You too, have a contribution. If it is on your heart – do not be afraid to fail. Show up in the biggest way you can (without comparing yourself to others) and commit to saying yes to your desire.
It is not a coincidence and you need to be seen and heard in whatever that is. So think of it as a disservice to NOT do that – it will propel you into action.
Alright – so let’s talk business. Tell us about your business – what should we know?
I would say my biggest contribution as a blogger is honesty and walking alongside women. Sometimes, I am not the best at this. What I am known for is really diving deep and not only is that uncomfortable for an audience at times, but for myself!
I think that sets me apart, but that is in all of us! It is such an honor to get to show up and be myself to see the love around me exist more fully and vibrantly. To take part in womens’ dreams, heartbreaks, desires. It is a journey for all of us and I think what I do well is acknowledge that.
What I am most proud of though, is the community around me. That people are really going after their hearts desires with an abandon like never before and declaring change. Change that HAS to happen for women, for families, and for men! It is a new day and to get to walk alongside people that usher in the truth that has settled in their hearts is the greatest victory I have.
Which women have inspired you in your life?
Devin Jones: She is a very close friend and confidant. We are able to talk openly about our faith journey’s, inspirations, the devastating controversies of today’s world and yet she always brings me to this place of love for life like nobody else does. She walks with women in a way that inspires me to keep diving into deep waters and hold hands with people while I do.
My Grandma Susan: She ushered in my love for holistic living. I know so many people that cannot call their family members “inspiring” and it breaks me to hear that, but my Grandma was the pioneer of a new day in our family. She faced adversity with courage, strength and came out of a circumstance I could never imagine, with compassion. It is not my story to tell, but it is an incredible one.
My Mom: A family member, again! This is not obligatory – I promise. My mom is this spunky, altruistic, go getter. Her care for others is on a new level that I cannot explain. She taught me so much about taking in people without families, not letting a past story define me and being someone that serves people with my whole heart.
Ruthie Lindsey: You have to look her up! Talk about taking the word “influence” seriously. She shows up and says “I, in and of myself, am an influence.” Not in a really prideful way, but in a way of, “We all have to show up in and of ourselves – that is our contribution.” She has a story of such pain, that I could never comprehend, and she describes the immense beauty that came of it. I just admire her so much and am so thankful for her transparency.
Brene Brown: Because she asked the hard questions. I just am enamored with her choice to listen to her Spirit in the midst of statistics. It takes courage to study shame and vulnerability in the capacity she did AND THEN to allow it to shape her. It is unheard of in that realm, but she did it and it created .a revolution. Not only does her research teach me, but her bravery and as she would put it “her time in the arena,” encourages me to not take society at its’ word and to really face myself.
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