Today we’d like to introduce you to Tris Thorp.
Tris, can you briefly walk us through your story – how you started and how you got to where you are today.
My own path to wellness has not been without trials and tribulations. My life has been laden with abandonment, abuse, neglect, bullying and betrayal. Throughout childhood, I struggled with rejection, ways to fit in, limiting beliefs about my self-worth and, ultimately, how to navigate life circumstances that seemed futile.
From the time I was a toddler, I learned to take care of myself and meet my own needs mentally, emotionally and physically. Being a child of teenage parents and having been given away repeatedly beginning around the age of five, I learned early on that my caretakers, while providing a home and food each day were not able to lovingly nurture me or guide me in the way I needed my parents to, nor was I given any real sense of stability. To add par to the course, at a time when no one was paying attention, certain people took inappropriate advantage of a little girl who was lost, confused and alone.
My elementary years were spent trying to fit in. I was continuously rejected and bullied for being ugly, different, ridiculed for the clothes I wore, and teased because I didn’t have any friends. Eventually, I learned to put on a strong front, to hide my inadequacies, and bury my emotions deep inside. I made an unconscious commitment to do everything on my own so that no one could ever leave me again. I learned that, as long as I stayed strong and was independent, as long as I remained alone, I couldn’t be abused, betrayed, judged or labeled as a being a victim. Or so I thought.
As a young adult, I projected all of my unresolved emotions and past experiences onto everyone I encountered. I told my tragic story to anyone who would listen. I carried all of me into every conversation and into every life circumstance. I left people before they could leave me, and ultimately, I created a life of isolation. I knew how to rock being alone. I was good at that. I was strong, independent, and I didn’t need anyone.
I was on top of my game and thought I had it all figured out. Until a series of events occurred, that brought my life crashing down. Again. At this point, it became clear that denial and self-sabotage were still very much a part of my unconscious operating system and living this way was no longer an option.
When I first began my spiritual practice and stepped onto the path of personal development, the isolation, abandonment and rejection from my childhood became even more heightened and more pronounced. My life had become even more tumultuous than it previously was, as I wrestled with the aspects of myself I hated and had spent a lifetime disowning. I did my best to navigate the space I was in. That was all I knew how to do. Survive.
Years later, I was taught by one of my mentors, Debbie Ford, that my perceived negative qualities and traits were actually my greatest strengths. Through some of the darkest nights of my soul’s journey, I began to slowly chip away at the walls that safeguarded the sweetheart and the bright light that had always been deep within me. The closer I got to that beauty within myself the more valiantly I charged into the work. The obstacles became an opening to clarity, grace, and a deeper understanding of my life’s purpose.
After years of integrating all that had been woven into the fabric of my being, I emerged on the other side with a zealous commitment to helping others along their path to emotional liberation. In the years since, I have dedicated my life to helping others find their purpose, health and an overall wellness of being – spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically. Through 1-1 coaching, workshops and private retreats, I help people who are experiencing exhaustion, overwhelm and a lack of motivation to create more structure, balance and fulfillment. Utilizing a combination of energy, Mental and Emotional Release® techniques and mindfulness-based lifestyle practices, I guide people to manage their energy, mindset and emotions, and to find and live their purpose. This is the work I do with myself and with those who are ready to let go of the old and create space for the new
Great, so let’s dig a little deeper into the story – has it been an easy path overall and if not, what were the challenges you’ve had to overcome?
Life is rarely a smooth road and, while there have been periods of happiness, joy and total bliss, there have been equal parts loss, confusion, disappointment and a sense of not knowing who I am or what I’m meant to do.
Childhood abandonment, sexual abuse and neglect set me up for energetically attracting more of the same, based on beliefs I had adopted about myself, others and the world I live in. I struggled to find where I fit in, I sabotaged relationships for fear of being rejected again, and I avoided dealing with my inner landscape because it was too painful, too difficult and too dark to “go there”.
I’ve had experiences and made choices in the past that led me to being homeless, which led me through a dark abyss of addiction and self-loathing that was always there – calling to me, incessantly, to bring it all to an end. I wanted to end my own life. And I knew that was never going to be an option. So, I learned to sit with the pain, to be present with what is, and to allow myself the time it would take to heal from betrayals, disappointments and trauma.
Please tell us more about your work.
I’m honored to say that I have been recognized as one of today’s leading experts in the field of emotional healing. I’m also an international bestselling author, speaker and lifestyle and leadership coach. For the last 20 years, I have been blessed to be able to share these gifts of emotional healing, personal empowerment and mindfulness-based lifestyle practices, while transforming the lives of thousands of people around the world. What makes my approach unique, is being able to use my personal experience combined with extensive studies I’ve completed alongside some of the world’s leading teachers in the fields of emotional integration, meditation and wellness including Deepak Chopra, Dr. David Simon, and Debbie Ford.
During my tenure at the Chopra Center, I apprenticed under the Chopra Center’s co-founder Dr. David Simon, co-facilitating Emotional Freedom workshops alongside him. I was also fortunate enough to be mentored and trained by the late Debbie Ford, which is where I continued my extensive studies of the unconscious mind and concepts of the persona and shadow. After the loss of my two mentors, I went on to become certified through the Ford Institute as a coach specializing in shadow work and reconciling mental and emotional issues stemming from past experiences. And now I am lucky enough to carry on these beautiful gifts of emotional healing and facilitating this work in the footsteps of my former mentors, who have both since passed away.
What sets you apart from others?
I believe what sets me apart from others, is my ability to truly tap into my own vulnerability and speak directly from the heart rather than intellect. I really try to focus on authentic storytelling to influence, inspire and ignite hope and healing for people who are ready to create a new story – one that honors wholeness and provides a path to living life more openly and loving more fully.
I know from personal experience, that with the right tools and having a compassionate guide, it’s possible to live our lives in harmony instead of fear, joy instead of resentment, love instead of pain, and freedom instead of servitude. Being a coach, international bestselling author, workshop facilitator and keynote speaker has truly allowed me to dive deep and explore the vast realm of emotions with a tremendous amount of compassion, empathy, warmth and humor. I strive to make every single person I interact with, (both onstage and off) feel seen, relevant and appreciated. My favorite quality is my ability to be able to connect with others through sharing my own life experiences in a way that lets them know they are safe to explore the deepest parts of themselves, too. It’s what connects us all. It’s what creates a sense of belonging. And we need that now more than ever.
I want my coaching clients, readers and workshop participants to know and have a direct experience of these tools really working in tangible, real-time ways, and to walk away from their work with me feeling empowered to use them in their lives.
What are you most proud of?
I’m most proud of the woman I am today and my intention to lead with truth, integrity and grace. It’s been one heck of a rocky road and whenever I’ve found myself at rock bottom (which has happened a few times in my life), I practice everything I teach with diligence, with patience and with as much self-compassion as I can muster. I’m most proud of my ability to (most of the time) stay in my own lane – meaning, I do MY work rather than pointing a finger outward. I have a formula for processing my experiences, releasing any negative emotions and/or limiting beliefs, allowing myself the time to heal, and then – when I’m ready – I rise back up stronger than ever.
Do you look back particularly fondly on any memories from childhood?
That’s a tough one. I don’t have many positive childhood memories. One that stands out is horseback riding in the summers with my cousins. We were young (I was probably 10-12) and we had zero to be concerned with in terms of life and responsibilities. We would wake up early, make Swedish pancakes and then we would saddle up and ride out in the fields for hours. We’d come back in long enough to eat and then head back out – sometimes riding into dusk. That’s always been my favorite time of day to go out and ride my horse now, too.
Clearly, in her dharma, Tris’s passion and dedication to gently guide people on their inward journey through emotional healing is evident in her work as a facilitator, coach, author, and speaker in the realm of personal empowerment and emotional healing. Tris is devoted to inspiring and empowering others to cultivate and maintain mindfulness-based lifestyle practices that lead to greater clarity, purpose and fulfillment.
Through one-on-one coaching, online programs, and her signature workshops and private, 1-1 retreats, Tris specializes in helping people to fully release negative emotions, limiting beliefs and unconscious patterns, enabling them to make quantum leaps into the life they are truly meant to be living.
You can learn more about Tris and her work as a coach, keynote speaker and lifestyle and leadership coach at www.tristhorp.com You can also learn all about her approach to emotional healing in her latest international bestselling book, Healing Your Heart: Rewrite Your Story with Awareness and Intention, available now on Amazon.
- Website: www.tristhorp.com
- Phone: (619) 320-5661
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