Today we’d like to introduce you to Danielle Kloberdanz.
Alright, so thank you so much for sharing your story and insight with our readers. To kick things off, can you tell us a bit about how you got started?
I always wanted to be a mom and even though I have a degree in developmental psychology, I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom more than anything. I grew up in Holland (The Netherlands) and spent much of my teenage years babysitting in my neighborhood. I loved it, and I think that’s why I was drawn to the field of study that I chose. I met my American husband shortly after I graduated college. I met him at my sister’s wedding in the Bay Area (NoCal) where she lived at the time. I was still living in Holland and simply traveled to attend the wedding. Well, Jim and I hit it off and started dating internationally. After nine months we got married, and I moved to the US. I had my dream come true with a happy marriage, (eventually) four healthy children, and a beautiful home in a wonderful neighborhood.
However, the dream that I thought would bring me ultimate joy and fulfillment, often didn’t live up to that. Many days I doubted my abilities as a mother and realized I was not as fulfilled and happy as I had hoped to be. I felt exhausted and often wondered “is this all there is to life?” I felt guilty about those thoughts, because I had such a wonderful life. But, at the same time, I knew that I had to fully acknowledge these feelings in order to do something about it. So, when my youngest started pre-school, I took time to myself to figure out how to turn this situation around and get inspired and fulfilled again.
I started reading books on psychology and spirituality and took notes on all the wonderful insights those books gave me – from authors like Brené Brown, Shefali Tsabary, Eckhart Tolle and Paulo Coelho. I soaked up all their wisdom and reflected on them through journaling. Over time, I realized how much I loved writing about various topics relating to spirituality and psychology. The idea of writing my own book became stronger within me over time.
Then, one day in 2016, I had a profound spiritual awakening that changed my life. I write extensively about what happened to me in my newly released book Inner Compass Mom: Finding Peace and Purpose in the Midst of Motherhood (BBL Publishing, May 2021). In a nutshell, this transformation allowed me to see motherhood through a completely different lens, helping me wake up to the many false and limiting beliefs that had dictated the way I lived my life up until then. It wasn’t easy to find the words to describe what it’s like to experience coming home, to feel whole again, to know that I was enough, and to feel unconditionally loved while seeing life through a new lens, but I tried, and I am pleased with the result.
Inner Compass Mom is part memoir, part prescription for the overwhelmed mom with easy-to-use tools to help moms connect with their own Inner Compass, helping them find their way towards a greater sense of inner peace. My awakening made me realize that it is very important for us as moms to pursue what is in our hearts while raising our families. I’m excited to offer individual coaching and small group workshops through my company, Inner Compass Living.
Alright, so let’s dig a little deeper into the story – has it been an easy path overall and if not, what were the challenges you’ve had to overcome?
For many months, I struggled with the idea of writing my own book about spirituality, and especially about my spiritual transformation. I was worried that people would think I was crazy. It took me a while to find the courage to fully embrace my writer’s journey. What helped me greatly was confiding in my closest friends who gave me the courage and support to keep moving forward with completing my book. They recognized themselves in the same struggles of motherhood and reminded me of how other moms might also benefit from a book like mine. They thought it was refreshing to read honest accounts of the behind-the-scenes struggles of motherhood that we don’t always talk about, and how the tools I discuss are easy to use and could help many others too. Especially in today’s fast and full world, it’s easy to lose ourselves somewhere along the journey of motherhood.
Not only did I get much needed support from my friends and family, I also asked for support from the Universe. Because that’s how I roll! I ask the Universe for signs to see if I’m on the right path and expect an answer to show up in the form of a sign. In Inner Compass Mom I explain how to follow signs like these; how to ask for them and how to receive them. I received several signs that I was indeed supposed to publish this book. That this is part of my path.
Asking for guidance from the Universe also meant that I trusted that the right people would show up to help me publish the book. Even though I went through many periods of doubt in the beginning, I kept trusting and sure enough the right publisher and writing coach came on my path who believed strongly in my message and helped me get it published. It was important that I found a writing coach who believed in my message and who also understood that English is my second language, even though I had lived here for about 20 years at the time, it’s not the same as learning the language when you grow up.
Appreciate you sharing that. What else should we know about what you do?
It’s more important than ever in today’s world to stay centered within ourselves. Our world is much fuller and faster than 15 or 20 years ago, and it can affect our mental health greatly.
It’s easy to get lost in the outer world of social media, the internet and 24-hour news cycles, telling us how to live and what to buy or pursue. In the end, only you know what inspires you, motivates you and is purposeful to you. It’s a matter of learning to tune into your Inner Compass to access inner peace and a deeper knowing of what it is that you truly want.
I’m all about helping moms do just that and uncover their inner truths so they can live their best lives and be the best versions of themselves while raising their families. It’s a most rewarding process, especially when moms start seeing their challenges through a new lens of clarity, allowing them to move forward in an inspiring direction.
We’re always looking for the lessons that can be learned in any situation, including tragic ones like the Covid-19 crisis. Are there any lessons you’ve learned that you can share?
Even though I always tried to limit after school activities for my kids, when you have multiple children, this is not always easy. Between sports, music lessons, orthodontist and dental visits, and an occasional doctor’s visit, along with managing homework, it was overwhelming much of the time. During the Covid Crisis, we enjoyed the much slower pace of sleeping in, of spending more time together as a family, and of not being rushed from one activity to another. We welcomed this shift for our family. We all learned the value of slowing down our hectic lifestyle. We learned to live more in the moment, because we truly only have the present moment.
- After a free 30 min consultation, rates are $125,- per hour. Purchase a block of hours to receive a discount. See www.innercompassliving.com/coaching for more information.
- $16.95 for a paperback. Kindle is $6.95. Available on Amazon. http://bit.ly/InnerCompassMom
- Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
- Website: www.innercompassliving.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellekloberdanz/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/danielle.kloberdanz.12
- Youtube: https://youtube.com/channel/UC_Xo6rfkLOC-cJk7fnbI-BA
- Other: http://bit.ly/InnerCompassMom
Taylor Nicole Hotter