Today we’d like to introduce you to Sara Oneil
Hi Sara, we’d love for you to start by introducing yourself.
I was living two lives simultaneously. I had my work life, which was twenty years in reality television, and then I had my passion: empowerment and spirituality. While I saw many people making a career in the self-improvement world, I never made the shift myself. While studying anything and everything I could get my hands on regarding spiritual growth, I kept it separate as a career possibility until I co-wrote the book When the F Will He Text with my friend, Jacqueline Kravette. That was when my life changed, and I went full throttle into writing about my favorite topics: dating, breakups, boundaries, and people-pleasing.
During the pandemic, I had a wake-up call (as so many of us did): life is too short not to live the life you truly want. That revelation ties into my favorite part of the people-pleasing puzzle—learning to put yourself first when you’ve spent your whole life putting everyone else ahead of you.
I’m sure it wasn’t obstacle-free, but would you say the journey has been fairly smooth so far?
It has been far from smooth. Most of my struggles are of my own making, and I wasted a lot of time second-guessing myself and doubting whether I should put my own story out into the world. I spent so long behind the scenes that it felt uncomfortable to shift away from the privacy I had grown accustomed to. However, a good friend reminded me that it’s selfish not to share my story if it can help someone else. Simultaneously, I was working through new layers of codependency that would eventually inspire me to write my next book, which is all about the cost of putting others first at the expense of yourself. I had to go deeper and face my biggest fears to come out on the other side with something meaningful to say.
Can you tell our readers more about what you do and what you think sets you apart from others?
I help recovering people-pleasers and overgivers, find their truth, own their power, and figure out what they want vs. what others want. I focus on relationships, breakups, boundaries, and shedding the guilt of putting yourself first. My thing is mixing edgy spirituality with no-BS honesty—think Sex and the City meets inner healing. While I love writing and spirituality, I am also highly flawed (as most people I gravitate to are), so I like to honor the imperfect part of the journey and have a good time. It takes the pressure off of getting things “right” when, in reality, it’s just the adventure you’re on. Some things are easier to change than others, and besides, what if the chaos you’ve stumbled upon becomes your greatest gift? That’s how it’s always worked for me. My medium is writing, but I am also a certified breathwork teacher, and I paint for fun.
What’s next?
My main focus has been on my new book, which is coming out this year (2025). I am also creating a website for edgy and spiritual content to write what I want to express and not have to tone myself down to fit a mold. I’m done with that. I am no longer interested in “getting it right” or “perfect,” I will write about my experiences while featuring other voices that inspire me. I’ve found that most publications are focused on either one side (self-help) or the other (sex, fashion, etc.), so I will create what I want to see in the world—a space that embraces the entire experience. The good, bad, and ugly. The mess that transpires while walking the path toward enlightenment. I could never crack the code, so I might as well have fun writing about it.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://saraoneil.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarajoneil
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/saraoneil
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-oneil/
Image Credits
Anastasia Nora-Lee
