Too many of us grew up only seeing one kind of boss or leader in the media. The lack of representation for other groups reinforced harmful stereotypes and acted as a self-fulfilling prophesy, but would our opinion of what a leader looks like be different if the media did a better job at representing the true diversity of leadership in America?
Women and other under-represented groups are already leading many great companies, organizations, & academic institutions; others are authoring best-sellers, building engaged audiences, leading movements and more.
We had the honor of connecting with many of the best and brightest female leaders from in and around the city and we asked them our question of the month: What is the best advice you have for someone who feels like they are facing insurmountable odds.
We encourage you to check out the female leaders we’ve highlighted below, follow them on social media if you find their work or story interesting and most importantly do your part to #fightstereotypes
Alanah Purtell – Director of Idiello
Everything feels like failure when you’re in the middle of it. If it isn’t scaring you, challenging you, then you’re not really growing from it. That moment when you’re staring down the barrel of what might just be an insurmountable challenge will definitely feel overwhelming, but it should also excite you; you’re on a frontier.
María Gómez- Women Empowerment- Girl Boss
There is absolutely nothing that a human being can’t overcome and you are given challenges in life that put it to test. Even when it’s overwhelming you should never ever stop trying because it’s your last line of defense. When you are faced with challenges than can either make or break you , in the end it depends not on how hard you fought but on how many times you got up after life knocked you down.
Soph Kessner– Spiritual Business & Intuitive Marketing Mentor
The best advice I can give someone who is feeling like they are facing something insurmountable is to first, breathe. Slow down, and ground back into their body and to feel their heart beat. To know that no matter how challenging, impossible, scary, and unfamiliar this moment may feel– it’s only temporary.
You are alive. and even if it makes absolutely no sense at all in this moment, there is a gift in all of this if you trust and believe that life, source, universe, is unfolding perfectly for you.
How can you choose to fall more in love with this moment and tune into what existence is wanting to teach and show you?
Lean into the uncomfortable space and know that this is where the real growth is. Have patience and be kind with yourself, you’re human– you’re allowed to have a messy, emotional, human experience.
Know that you are held, you are loved, and no matter how tough moments may be, that there is something far greater for you to do on this planet if you just stick around a little longer and continue to breathe.
Create space to fall back in love with yourself, make time to do things that light you up and bring even the smallest glimpse of light and joy back into your life– you’re so much more magnetic when you’re actually happy.
Give yourself permission to let go of the things that no longer serve you and choose to put yourself first, choose YOU.
Choose to honor your heart, your soul, your own body first.
This is where all the magic happens.
Breathe deeply, trust, slow down, tune in.
And know, you’ve got this.
I love you.
Prince Caroline – hiphop dancer and sporty girl
If that someone really wants to overcome that challenge, all he has to do is keep fighting, because if you really believe in it, nothing is impossible.
Raina Mae – Entrepreneur & YouTuber
My best advice to anyone who feels like they’ve reached a point where there’s no direction and they’re feeling lost is to put down the “road map” and start navigating your own path. The “map” may have the roads taken in the past but it doesn’t have the roads created by you. Navigate your own destiny, enjoy your journey, and conquer your destination.
Dawn Marie Barr – Wellness Advocate & Habits Coach
I believe all seemingly insurmountable challenges are made up of smaller, manageable tasks. My best advice for someone dealing with an overwhelming challenge is to break it into actionable tasks and to tackle those bits one at a time.
Messy Kat – thee Odd and salon receptionist
Even when things seem to be the worst and you feel like everyone and everything is coming for you in the worst ways, keep going, keep waking up to the next day, even if it looks like there’s no end there will be an end and the happiness will be worth it.
Fayth Ramsey a writer, videographer, entrepreneur, and respiratory therapy student
For anyone facing something they feel is insurmountable; you weren’t ever designed to do life alone. Reaching out for help, guidance and support doesn’t make you weak it makes you wise.
Coming from someone who reached rock bottom not that long ago, I needed the people who I trust the most to help pull me back up.
In the moment it’s hard to see the goodness that will come out of hardship, but the promises that await you on the other side are far greater than anything you left behind. If the mountain doesn’t move, learn how to climb. Nothing is impossible to overcome if you just keep persevering, believe in the authority inside of you, and never lose hope. #444, you’re never alone.
Katrina Starz, founder of @grippzmats
Just take one step at a time and look within. All the answers lie within each and everyone of us. Universe ALWAYS has you back. Trust the process.
Laurie Buchanan, PhD — holistic health practitioner, life coach, speaker, and author
My advice to someone who’s facing a challenge they feel is insurmountable is two-fold:
1. Acknowledge your achievements. At one time these, too, felt insurmountable. Yet you conquered them.
2. Review your ta-dah list (the steps it takes to achieve your goal). This will keep you focused and distraction-free.
Brittney Ellers – Physical Therapist, Yoga Instructor, and Health Stylist
The best advice I have is two-fold: 1. Baby steps. Start facing your challenge by doing one thing at a time with focus and precision is helpful for me. Sometimes we think too “big picture” and forget that we can make moves TODAY. 2. Remember you have so much power. So much is in your control, including your mindset. Start working through those mindset blocks and get out of your own way. You have it in you!
Tiffany Kappel- Owner & Travel Advisor
Life definitely has its ups and downs and things are not always going to be easy! What has worked for me is using challenging situations as learning opportunities and taking what I learn and using it to make myself a better and stronger person. I have also intentionally built a strong and positive support system. I also love to laugh and I have surrounded myself with people that are light hearted and love to joke and have fun. It is amazing how a little laughter can bring light to a gloomy situation.
Sadie Sieroty- Actor
My best advice is to just breathe and make a plan. Things always will work out one way or another if you put in the work, have patience, and give it time. Advocate for yourself and make something happen!
Advice : Keep going and always try and make mini gratitude list. Yes life brings tough times, but a gracious heart allows for you to push through those passing moments.
Amanda Whitworth – Woodworker & Freelancer
Take it day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute. Slow down and give yourself the space to rest and just be.
Sommer VanDyke-Personal Trainer & Mom
I would say to those people who feel that they are facing something insurmountable that God always has our back, and as long as you have faith, he will guide you through whatever challenges you face.
Jessica Justus – Artist
Sometimes there are challenges you don’t get around and the only thing you can change in a situation is yourself. Be adaptable, willing to take risks, and throw all your effort at a problem. Be strong enough to say no and brave enough to say yes to opportunities that come your way! I’ve found when I opened myself up and stayed true to intentions, stopped listening to negative voices, and put in the work, a path opened FOR me.
Nicole Dobransky – Encinitas Runner, Twin Mom & Virtual Fitness Coach
Make a big plan to make your goal happen and then break it down into smaller goals and milestones that you can achieve along the way. And remember, you must BELIEVE that you can do it, otherwise you won’t!
Lily Sensimilla – Cannabis influencer and CEO of My Happy Yoni
When facing a challenge try to be patient with the process, understand things might take longer than expected. Ask for help and don’t take it on all at once. The energy put out will return! 🙂
DeVin Lasek – cosmetology student & photographer
Challenges are what makes life worth living. Because what is life without a challenge? If you think that you’ve hit a wall and you feel there is no way over or around it, You can’t manifest on being stuck, that will only make it worse. Instead, Imagine what would happen after you complete the challenge. Imagine that you’ve already overcome it and manifest that feeling of completion. Then, that roadblock won’t seem so overwhelming. By imagining your start point and your end point, the path to completion will come to you.
Lauren Andriany – Interior Stylist
It’s okay to ask for help. I think we get a lot of “self-help” messages, and we live in a society that prizes autonomy, but the reality is, everyone who has accomplished anything big in life, whatever it was, did it with help. It can be scary to be vulnerable. But there’s no shame in it. Whenever I humble myself and ask for help, I’m surprised at how happy people are to give it. And there’s this magical thing that happens, where the helper is helped as much as the one asking for help. We have these walls up, but when we let them down, other peoples’ come down too, and we see that we’re all the same, and we all really need each other. That’s been my experience, and I don’t think it’s because of anything particularly “special” about me, except that I’ve been desperate enough to be in a position to find that people are meant to connect and help each other. Facing big challenges both in my personal and professional life knowing that someone was in my corner gave me a sense that one way or another, I’d be ok, because I didn’t have to go through it alone.
Liddy Scarlet – yoga practitioner and environmentalist
Seemingly insurmountable challenges are presented to us to enable us to overcome them and continue on our path of development and self-realisation. My advice would be, to simply believe that this challenge is presenting itself to you for your greater good, take a deep breath and walk head and heart first into it.
Christina Jaquez Blogger
When you feel like you are facing a challenge that feels insurmountable, I would say to INVEST IN YOURSELF. It could be time, space, or any other development. When I take the time I need for myself, I often gain clarity and strength to move forward. I once had someone tell me, “the only way out is through.” I believe to get through, your cup should be full.
Jennifer Duronio, Yoga Teacher, Marathoner, & Clean Beauty Boss
Whether an insurmountable challenge is chosen or handed to us can make all the difference in our approach, and I’ve been through both, just like all of us. As I reflect on them, I’d say that what they all have in common is that I internalized and visualized the outcome. The science is there: When golfers or basketball players visualize the shot, seeing in their minds’ eye the ball meeting its goal, it happens. The same is true for many other difficult challenges, too. I distinctly remember one strong training run in which I internalized how strong and confident I wanted to feel crossing the finish line for my eventual Boston Marathon qualifier. I even put my intention out into the world (well, the Facebook world), and several runner friends thought I was crazy for telling everyone of my goal ahead of Grandma’s Marathon in 2016. As it turns out, I fell 11 seconds short of qualifying due to extremely hot weather conditions and severe leg cramping. But I got back out there for Twin Cities Marathon that fall and CRUSHED my qualifying time to run Boston in 2018. I ran so with such strength and such resolve that I cried at the end remembering that training run where I had visualized it all. I say put your intention out there. Tell your friends and family what it is, and find your tribe of cheerleaders and supporters. Then do the hard work.
Priscilla Leyva – Certified in Hypnotherapy
If you can imagine it, you can live it. You can change your circumstance with a simple process. The trick is to follow through with this process and stick to it even if you don’t see results right away. When you plant a seed, you don’t stand over it and demand it to grow. So, when you plant a new seed of thought you need to continue to tend to it and believe it will spout in its own perfect timing. When you really desire to change a circumstance take a few minutes out of you day to tend to the new seed of what you truly desire.
It’s best do this process before you sleep and only needs to take 10-15 minutes.
Start of by sitting or lay in a quiet place while taking a few deep breaths to relax your body. Begin to picture yourself in the circumstance that you truly desire. Live in the moment of your success in your imagination. Feel the feeling all throughout your body as if it were true. Imagine your friends and family congratulating you on what a great job you’ve done. Feel elation as if you are where you wanted to be and see yourself living it. The more details you can picture the better.
Once you’re done with your virtual reality session relax in the knowing that your work is DONE. And if you don’t believe it test it for yourself. Try this process for 5-7 days and see what happens.