Today we’d like to introduce you to Ruby Le.
Ruby, can you briefly walk us through your story – how you started and how you got to where you are today.
I started as the shy, awkward, and quiet little Asian female who could never build the confidence to talk to anyone, especially guys. But, as I spoke to friends in high school about dating and relationships, I was always incredibly intrigued and curious.
That was when I recognized my passion. I knew I wanted to work in the dating and love industry since high school (yes, many thought I was crazy…). So, even against my Asian family’s disapproval, I took the steps to do so.
I earned a Masters degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of Southern California and a Bachelors degree in Social Work from San Diego State University. I have worked with many couples to enhance their overall satisfaction and overcome struggles in their relationship. But, it was there that I realized many couples should not have been together in the first place. Then, I began the journey to help singles find the right person for them.
I worked with the matchmaking firm, It’s Just Lunch, and I was the lead matchmaker and coach at eHarmony’s premium service, eH+. I have helped hundreds of clients search for their special person, coached those to be successful on dates, and helped clients get happily married and in relationships.
It was during this time that I noticed the big problem society was creating the label of “nice guy” – popularly known as the man who gets in the friend-zone. However, what I saw was the good-hearted man who hasn’t been given the chance. With the inspiration from brothers who I watched get stuck in these situations, alongside the largest positive impact I made with these type of clients, I decided to branch off on my own with the mission to help the “good gentleman” find their confidence, strength, and charm to find the right partner… all without changing who they are.
Now, people know me as the Modern Day ‘Hitch’ – I am dedicating my time to these men unleash a part of them to get the right ladies drawn to them.
Great, so let’s dig a little deeper into the story – has it been an easy path overall and if not, what were the challenges you’ve had to overcome?
Going after what you want is never an easy road, but it’s always worth it.
Let me be honest – I had to rewrite my story several times. I did not start off knowing exactly what to do with my passion. I kept testing and rewriting, and I still continue to do so! This means a lot of ideas not working out, countless hours not producing the results needed, and continuously having to think “What now?”
But, I knew, as long I kept going and trying – I’d find my passion crafted out in the way I’d ideally want.
Also, as a Vietnamese American female growing up in a traditional household, being a business owner was never mentioned to be part of my journey. In fact, it was looked down upon. I decided to take this unconventional path and it was not an easy road to explain to my family. It still, isn’t.
But, to show that it’s worth it – I make time for my family when they need help.
In the end, I recognized that my family has their own idea of “security” and “success” – and it’s okay to have that difference. It’s the unconditional love that overcomes all conflicts because when they see me happy fulfilling my passion and the difference I’m making, they accept the path I’ve chosen.
Please tell us about Good Gentleman.
I have dedicated my life to helping people find that special someone. I am a dating coach who helps the good-intentioned gentleman get on a date through a customized strategy that doesn’t require them to change who they are. My popular nickname is the Modern Day Hitch!
I am not your typical dating coach who just woke up one day thinking I can randomly start a business by helping single men because I’m a woman and I have personal experience. I am your dating coach who knew her passion since high school and got the experience to help you.
I worked for the matchmaking firm, It’s Just Lunch and was the lead matchmaker and coach at eH+ by eHarmony. I earned a Masters degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of Southern California. I worked in mental health with couples. I, also, appeared on Tedx, speaking about why everyone is single.
I use my extensive experience from previous matchmaking firms with a combination of training in marital counseling to provide my clients the best and most effective strategies for finding and keeping long-lasting love. With my positive energy, hope, and passion, I value the collaboration with my clients and am always excited to guide my clients on the journey to find lasting love and happiness.
Not only do I feel most rewarded when a client gets married or in a happy relationship, but what makes me more ecstatic is seeing them regain hope and confidence in love again.
Do you look back particularly fondly on any memories from childhood?
This should have been the writing on the wall for me when I played with dolls and continuously was the matchmaker for certain dolls, then I let my imagination roll to see if it ends up in a successful one or not.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://goodgentleman.com/
- Phone: 619.354.0204
- Email: ruby@goodgentleman.com
- Instagram: @goodgentleman_
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GoodGentlemanAdvice/
Image Credit:
GrowthLab’s Series, Tiny Empires
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