Jasmine Montoya shared their story and experiences with us recently and you can find our conversation below.
Good morning Jasmine, it’s such a great way to kick off the day – I think our readers will love hearing your stories, experiences and about how you think about life and work. Let’s jump right in? What’s more important to you—intelligence, energy, or integrity?
Living a life of integrity is the most important thing to me. My life’s journey and now services that I offer mainly focuses on returning back to self. The self before the noise of this world. The self before any traumatic events occurred.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
My name is Jasmine Montoya and I am an energy healer, spiritual guide, and grief facilitator with a focus on intergenerational trauma. I combine the rituals and ceremonies of my indigenous lineage, my colorful life experiences, my spiritual gifts, and my decade long studies in trauma recovery to guide women on their healing journey. I am a single mother of one who trailblazed a new way of being for my child and future generations. Being a cycle breaker and working with many on the same path I believe that having a deep understanding of your life experiences, awakening to what needs to be healed and felt through in order to be released, and processing the grief that comes along with this is key in rewiring toxic patterns. Healing is possible no matter what you have experienced in life.
Okay, so here’s a deep one: What did you believe about yourself as a child that you no longer believe?
I was told at a very young age that I was an angry adolescent but really it was the environment I found myself in, the people who surrounded me, and the situations I was forced to endure that brought out that side in me.
After coming to terms with my childhood experiences, cutting off family members that were toxic, and creating a family unit that I felt safe, seen, and loved all that anger went away. That wasn’t me that was who I had to be to survive.
What have been the defining wounds of your life—and how have you healed them?
I have three defining wounds from my life’s journey.
One was the toxic environment in my childhood. I healed that by reparenting myself, speaking my truth to my family, setting really firm boundaries since I am a mother now, and cutting off family members that were not healthy to have in my life.
My second experience was when I was 15 and held at gun point. I didn’t realize it then but after that incident I was more reactive in life vs. responsive. The fear of being attacked again by a man, the disregard for my life forced me to live from my fear’s vs from my heart space. Years later when I was unraveling my life during my healing journey, I realized I never processed that incident and worked through it be acknowledging what happened to me and all the feelings that came along with it.
Lastly was my toxic marriage which led to a very high conflict divorce and child custody battle. Where for a brief time I lost custody of my son and fought tirelessly to get him back.
Thankfully during this time, I already had done the deep and hard work of healing and self-realization that I knew who I was versus the narrative that was being told about me, and I knew the tools of self-care like breathwork, somatic techniques, and other alternative practices to help me move through this challenging time.
Next, maybe we can discuss some of your foundational philosophies and views? What are the biggest lies your industry tells itself?
Being part of the spiritual/ wellness community, I hear a lot of bypassing one’s truth. It’s all love and light and good vibes only and I don’t agree with that one bit. You can’t good vibes it all when you are healing from trauma. You must accept your darkness just as much as owning your light.
Okay, we’ve made it essentially to the end. One last question before you go. What is the story you hope people tell about you when you’re gone?
That she was a woman who lived on her own terms, loved from her soul, and truly cared about her communities.
That she never gave up when darkness swallowed her whole and her greatest role in life was that of being a mother.
That she was living proof that you could heal from anything as long as you loved yourself enough to do the hard work.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.coachingbyjasmine.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jasminmontoya_/
