Today we’d like to introduce you to Lee Jagger.
Hi Lee, it’s an honor to have you on the platform. Thanks for taking the time to share your story with us – to start maybe you can share some of your backstory with our readers?
All my adult life, I was a sexual wallflower: I was passive in the bedroom and I never initiated sex. I just went along with whatever the man wanted to do. And that was mostly due to me not knowing how to reciprocate all the delicious foreplay that I enjoyed receiving. Basically, I didn’t know how to touch a man’s privates with any degree of skill. I felt awkward and inept when it came time for me to be the giver of pleasure, so I remained the receiver. I preferred the guilt of being a selfish lover over the humiliation of looking bad in bed.
One day, I received a phone call from a lady who responded to my Craigslist ad looking for Swedish massage work. I had been homeless and taking housesitting gigs to put a roof over me and my young son’s head for 18 months and was temporarily staying in a hoarder’s living room when I got the call. It was because of my desperation for a better living situation that I didn’t immediately hang up when the lady asked if I was open to doing erotic massage. I answered, “Absolutely not!” However, when she mentioned how much money women in this profession typically earned, my hunger for cash and hunger for food tipped the scales in favor of me giving it a try. I was willing to tuck my negative judgments about this kind of work into a dark closet in the back of my mind and tolerate the job for a few weeks if it meant I could get ahead financially and breathe a little easier.
Well, little did I know that it would turn into a 6-year career. After 2000+ clients, not only had my living situation improved, but I had also learned a whole lot about touching a man’s genitalia with expert skill. This rippled out into my personal, intimate relationships: I had become comfortable—no, eager—taking charge in the bedroom. I was no longer uncertain and shy between the sheets. Instead, I felt confident, creative, and playful for the first time in my 30 years of being sexually active. I was enthusiastic about sex and thoroughly enjoyed being the giver of pleasure because now I knew exactly how to touch a man to make his eyes roll back in his head in ecstasy.
At one point, I thought about how much more satisfying my sex life would have been all these years had I acquired these skills in my 20s. I wistfully wished I had stumbled upon someone to teach me back then what I know now. After searching online for courses that might teach this skill set, I came up empty. That was when I realized there was a need for this kind of sex education that fosters female empowerment. I knew I wasn’t the only one who felt awkward in the bedroom. And with my life-long passion for teaching (I have a Bachelor of Education), I decided to create a course called Erotic Massage Mastery to help women feel bold, self-assured, and free in the bedroom.
I’m sure you wouldn’t say it’s been obstacle free, but so far would you say the journey have been a fairly smooth road?
My journey has been anything but smooth! Halfway through the session with my second client, he jumped off the table without warning and said, “Ok, you get on the table now. I’m going to massage you.” He had completely hijacked control and I felt very unsafe. And to make matters worse, he and I were the only ones in the room, so my anxiety was at an all-time high. This first of many intimidating experiences showed me how important it was to establish authority through clear communication and well-defined boundaries.
Over the years, I encountered many disconcerting moments. I had to deal with the awkward situation of clients trying to pass off counterfeit bills as payment. I can’t even count the number of men who assumed they could grope my body without consent while they were on my massage table. I was even attacked by a client once, and I reported it to the police. When they tracked the perpetrator down, they did nothing more than give him a verbal slap on the hand.
So, I felt utterly alone and vulnerable much of the time, especially in the first few years. I had no one in my office with me for protection or encouragement as I fumbled my way toward empowerment. My learning curve was a solitary journey and I felt afraid many times. However, I don’t regret any of those difficult situations because they taught me—albeit the hard way—how to step into my personal power in and out of the bedroom.
Thanks for sharing that. So, maybe next you can tell us a bit more about your work?
I became the founder and CEO of a sexual educational company called Rock The Bedroom, where I work with women to help them discover and embrace their inner sex goddess. All my courses and coaching programs are online, which enables women to learn erotic massage techniques from the privacy of their home without the awkwardness of other participants being able to see them practice. Several times per year, I host a Rock The Bedroom Challenge where I teach live, online workshops to ladies who want to transform their same old sex routine into a joyful experience of connection and play.
My journey of stepping fully into my power in the bedroom was dangerous, discouraging, and long, so it is a personal point of pride to help women quickly step into their own sexual power with fun, grace, and ease.
- Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
- Website: rockthebedroom.com/signup.
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveleejagger/
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- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrGXTMMAAJcm7ejdktiEZbA
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